Handle Yourself And Other People Better enables you to manage your relationships for a more rewarding and much happier life. It is the basis of successful management.

“Life is mostly froth of bubble, two things stand alone:
kindness in another’s trouble, courage in your own”

Do your relationships with your boss and senior management need improving?
Do you feel suitably challenged and recognized in your job?
Could you be better motivated?
Are you making good progress in your career?
When was the last time you were promoted or had a salary increase?

Do you find your colleagues political and difficult to deal with?
Do they play games? Do you suspect them of sabotaging you?
Would you like them to be able to work more effectively with you?

Do you find dealing with some subordinates, customers, and suppliers tricky?
Do you wish there was someone you could turn to, to coach and help you with specific issues that ‘bug’ you and stand in the way of your success and happiness?

Is it difficult for you to approach other people, even those you know?
Do you dread ‘prospecting’ and ‘cold calls’?

Are you shy, awkward and tongue tied at functions and gatherings?
Are you fearful of drinks or office parties and small talk?
Is a lack of social skills holding you back in your career and personal life?

Do you find it difficult to walk into a roomful of people without feeling embarrassed?
Do you flinch at the thought of having to make the first approach to someone?
Do you know how to ask questions and get people interested in you?

Do you have unhappy relationships outside work? Is your home life unhappy?

Would you like to know how to handle yourself and other people better?

Everyone is different. You are unique. I’ll explain why that matters.

A standard course may help but it won’t get to the core of your own problems and it won’t help you overcome them in the way best suited to your personality.

Handling yourself and other people better is not a secret if you enlist my help.
I will take you through a series of exercises - in the order that will make them most effective for you. We will ‘talk’ on the email, or, if you want to, meet face-to-face, discussing each exercise so that you understand exactly what your problems and opportunities are. Together we will overcome them.

I will deal with you personally and will NOT delegate your work to anyone else.
You will do your Course at home, in your own time, at your own pace.

Everything you tell me will be in strict confidence and will not go beyond me at any time.

WHAT YOU GET?
As it is a course tailored to your needs I choose the order in which we tackle the opportunities and problems you may have. However, during the course we will cover:

WHO ARE YOU?
Are you happy with who you are? How do other people see you? Does it matter?

HOW MUCH ATTENTION SHOULD YOU PAY TO YOUR IMAGE?
When does sensible self-awareness become introspective and destructive naval-gazing?

DO YOU NEED TO BE LOVED BY OTHER PEOPLE?
If so, how many and who? And how much? And why?

DO YOU NEED TO LOVE OTHER PEOPLE?
How should you love them? How much should you love them?

HOW MUCH ATTENTION SHOULD YOU PAY TO OTHER PEOPLE?
Why? Will you get thanked for your trouble? Does it matter?

HOW MUCH FUN ARE YOU ENTITLED TO GET OUT OF LIFE?
How will you get it? How will it make you happy?

WILL GOOD MANNERS HELP TO MAKE YOU HAPPY?
Yours? Other peoples?

HOW DOES ASKING QUESTIONS IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS?
What questions should you ask? When?

WHAT DO JEALOUSY AND ENVY MEAN?
What is the impact of them on other people and on you?

HOW CAN YOU SHARE YOUR HAPPINESS AND SPARE YOUR DESPAIR?
Is happiness a destination or part of a journey?

DO YOU REALLY CARE FOR WHO YOU CARE FOR?
What is the meaning of care? Is caring a mirror, reflecting back what you give?

HOW CAN YOU FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF rather than feeling sorry for yourself?

HOW CAN YOU GET YOUR ACT TOGETHER and stop being lonely?

HOW CAN YOU BE OPTIMISTIC if you are naturally pessimistic?

HOW CAN YOU GET STARTED when you are lethargic and uninspired?

HOW CAN YOU AVOID THE DAMAGING EFFECTS OF HATE?
Both yours and other peoples?

DO YOU REMIND YOURSELF EACH MORNING THAT TODAY IS THE FIRST DAY OF THE REST OF YOUR LIFE?
How do I unpack my bags and start living?

HOW CAN YOU DISTINGUISH BETWEEN THOUGHTS THAT ARE CONSTRUCTIVE AND THOSE THAT ARE DESTRUCTIVE?

ARE YOU A CORK OR AN OCEAN-GOING LINER?

HOW CAN YOU REALISE THAT YOUR LIFE IS A TRIUMPH, NOT A STRUGGLE?

HOW DO YOU START?
A series of exercises designed to find out:

• Who you care about and why
• Who you don’t care about and why
• How self-confident you are
• How well you focus on other people as well as yourself
• How good you are at asking questions

The main ‘departments’ of the programme:

Dept 1: Improving your self-confidence
Dept 2: Learning to gush
Dept 3: Avoiding anticipating failure
Dept 4: Valuing mistakes
Dept 5: The Nike routine
Dept 6: Memory hooks to make sure you don’t forget
Dept 7: Not painting yourself into a corner
Dept 8: Risk taking
Dept 9: Setting your own realistic standards
Dept 10: Enjoying life - at last.

This package will be a joint venture between us.

The first stage will be the MIRROR TEST followed by the PASDAQ 150 Review (included in the price of the programme).

You will get feedback on these, and the other stages, as you complete them. How long will it take? That’s up to you. We’ll go as fast as you like but take as long as necessary. The course ends when you are comfortable that you can handle yourself and other people better. Not before.

“You’ll be better for it”

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